The Art of Love-Making

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Weekly Contest (2)

Hopefully this week will only be the one week, feel free to post anonymously/with a pseudonym and share your tips with readers!

As before the prize is simply pride and the opportunity, if you wish, to write a guest post!

Friday Ploys (2)

This Friday takes over from Last Friday with 3 ploys/methods for you to use and try to pick up girls!

1. Being Famous. If you can pretend to be somebody that everyone knows then you're one step ahead of just about annyone else in the room. There are two ways that you can do this, the first is to do it on your own and talk on the phone about an upcoming film/song/deal depending on what role you wish to play. If you happen to look like someone famous then I would suggest sticking with them! The second, and best, way to do this is to have your friends act like you're a celebrity, ask for photos and signatures and it's bound to cause a stir!

2. Pretend to be a doctor or vet. I've never tried this but I'd be 80 percent sure if you pretended to be a vet who's been going through the trials of losing a puppy you'd pick up girls no problem. This is most likely to work in a pub and talk to your friends loudly about your day and what you do!

3. Raisin or date. This is a cross between a ploy and a chat-up line but it finds itself here because of the practical doing of the method. Make sure you have a box of raisins and a box of dates and go up to a girl and ask if she'd like a raisin. She'll probably say no in which case you can reply "How about a date then?" If she laughs it off then laugh as well and pull out your dates (not your testicles). If she says yes to the raisins then give her a raisin and then offer a date - you can't lose!

An Apology

It's been a week since my last blog post and for this I apologise, for numerous reasons - some of which were down to google I've had to remove some blog posts that were deemed inappropriate. Hopefully we're back up and running from now on.

Weekly Contest Result
The Winner of the "Weekly Contest" which turned into a bi-weekly contest was "True Charmer" - Congratulations! If you wish to write a guest article then please comment below!

Friday Ploys will return shortly and the blog shall continue in the same vain as it did previous to the last week

Feedback - All feedback is more than welcomed and constructive criticism is preferred!

Chat-Up Line Wednesday! (No. 2)

Another week and another set of chat-up lines, three to try and three to avoid!

1. Do you know how much a polar bear weighs? Enough to break the ice... (Alternative - why don't we go back to mine and google it?)
2. There's something wrong with my phone, it doesn't have your number in it...
3. Have you got a map? Because I'm lost in your eyes...

1. Are you free tonight or will it cost me?
2. I'm not actually this tall, I'm just sat on my wallet...
3. I may not be the best looking guy in this room, but I'm the only one talking to you...

Feel free to comment with your own below!

Boosting Confidence (Part II)

Part II focuses on things you can practice and learn in order to appear more confident when on the pull, the conversation part is especially important and effective when coupled with body language and eye contact!

Conversation/Speech

First of all never answer a question with one word, and always follow up an answer with another question. As soon as she starts giving one word answers then either try or change the topic or move on to somebody else, the secret to conversation is to keep it flowing, varied and interesting!

Talk like a normal person, don’t use clichés but you can prepare stories if they’re easy to relate to and interesting to the individuals you’re with – judge your company and alter your manner accordingly.

If you can build a more personal relationship in this then even better, listen to what you’re being told and remember it. Especially remember people’s names and where they come from, and if they talk about something for a long time continue discussing it with them, lie and say that you share their interest if you’re confident enough!!

If you’re feeling very nervous use humour, it should make you and her feel at ease and the best way to build the relationship that I’ve focussed on so far is with this humour!

What to talk about? If you’re in a club talk about the club because you can be confident she’ll have some knowledge, know your surroundings and use them to your advantage. If it’s in a city you can then talk about the city, where they went to school and try to find a common ground. Once you have this “common ground” stick with it for a while and build a bond so that she remembers you as the person who was interested in her.

Try to speak clearly and to the point, don’t finish every sentence with “like” or “you know what I mean” because this instantly shows girls how nervous you are! Also speak slowly and don’t mumble, there’s nothing more awkward than a girl having to ask you to repeat yourself!

Complimenting the girl you’re talking to can be difficult but can also be extremely successful, as I’ve said before focus on something small that she wouldn’t normally be complimented on! Be Unique!!

Keep the balance of speech between you and her fairly equal, if at all possible let her talk more than you but this is sometimes impossible to achieve!

Specifics for nights out!

Strength in Numbers can be used very successfully, if you’re out with people you like and can relate to then you’ll seem more at home. Don’t be afraid to wing-man for your friends and learn from what they do and from their mistakes, it also gives you an opportunity to watch how girls react in a thoroughly unbiased manner!

Dressing in clothes your comfortable is just as important as dressing in clothes that make you look good, if you can find a pair of “pulling pants” then wear them, it might just give you that edge! Believe it or not I have a shirt that I’ve never failed to pull in, if you’re feeling nervous or like you won’t pull, put your item of clothing on and it WILL work wonders!             

Dancing is another good way to boost your confidence, make a fool of yourself or dance really well, you can’t lose if you can handle yourself in the correct way relative to how you dance.

Don’t think about failure, I’ve spoken about this in a separate post but the essence is that, realistically, what’s the worst that can happen? It’s inevitable that one day someone’s going to say “No”, so you may as well make that day today!

Boosting Confidence (Part 1)

How To Solve The Confidence “Problem” - The mental processes

I’ve spoken about this at leanght to say the least, therefore I believe it’s time to tackle the issue head-on, although it’s not directly to do with pulling it is clearly a major part! Personally I learn by doing and therefore by taking that first step and going for it you end up being 70% of the way there. Part II will focus more on physical appearance and less on the mental aspects of confidence, the tips below you can learn without putting them directly into practice, the next part isn't quite that easy! 

Mental Preparation

Know your strengths – if you think about what you’re good at and what you’ve achieved and focus upon this then you should feel much more comfortable in the situation – if you pulled the night before focus on that and your mind will be more assured that you will do the same tonight.

Look at what you want to achieve and where you want to go – if you want a one night stand then reminding yourself of this will help, if you want something more serious then focus on that.

Positive Mental Thinking should never be underrated, if you tell yourself that you’re going to go out and pull then it’s much more likely that you will do so. If you know in yourself what your aim is, and more importantly that it is a doable aim – you will have much more confidence.

Preparation continues through the process, if you set yourself the target of talking to 3 different girls the first night, 6 the next and then 9 the one after that you’ll find that you aren’t daunted at all, and are actually learning by doing!

Body Language

Eye Contact is the most important part of confidence, even if you don’t feel confident in yourself by exuding self-esteem and confidence you are much more likely to succeed.

Be open and relaxed, keep your feel apart and your hands out of your pockets, it’s like speaking in public if you move your hands people will be more in tune not only with what you’re saying, but with you as a person.

Looking like you’re listening sounds simple but if you can give the occasional nod and positive response in a conversation with a girl they’ll like you more, and think that you value their time and therefore value yours.

Smile, facial expressions show everything without us realising it; If you’re scared then it’ll show. Perfect a smile that you can show even when you’re nervous and people will be none the wiser to your frame of mind and that point.