Boosting Confidence (Part 1)

How To Solve The Confidence “Problem” - The mental processes

I’ve spoken about this at leanght to say the least, therefore I believe it’s time to tackle the issue head-on, although it’s not directly to do with pulling it is clearly a major part! Personally I learn by doing and therefore by taking that first step and going for it you end up being 70% of the way there. Part II will focus more on physical appearance and less on the mental aspects of confidence, the tips below you can learn without putting them directly into practice, the next part isn't quite that easy! 

Mental Preparation

Know your strengths – if you think about what you’re good at and what you’ve achieved and focus upon this then you should feel much more comfortable in the situation – if you pulled the night before focus on that and your mind will be more assured that you will do the same tonight.

Look at what you want to achieve and where you want to go – if you want a one night stand then reminding yourself of this will help, if you want something more serious then focus on that.

Positive Mental Thinking should never be underrated, if you tell yourself that you’re going to go out and pull then it’s much more likely that you will do so. If you know in yourself what your aim is, and more importantly that it is a doable aim – you will have much more confidence.

Preparation continues through the process, if you set yourself the target of talking to 3 different girls the first night, 6 the next and then 9 the one after that you’ll find that you aren’t daunted at all, and are actually learning by doing!

Body Language

Eye Contact is the most important part of confidence, even if you don’t feel confident in yourself by exuding self-esteem and confidence you are much more likely to succeed.

Be open and relaxed, keep your feel apart and your hands out of your pockets, it’s like speaking in public if you move your hands people will be more in tune not only with what you’re saying, but with you as a person.

Looking like you’re listening sounds simple but if you can give the occasional nod and positive response in a conversation with a girl they’ll like you more, and think that you value their time and therefore value yours.

Smile, facial expressions show everything without us realising it; If you’re scared then it’ll show. Perfect a smile that you can show even when you’re nervous and people will be none the wiser to your frame of mind and that point.