Frame of Mind

If you approach a situation positively then you’re far more likely to succeed, this isn’t just true regarding getting with girls it’s true in every aspect of life. If you go out thinking that you won’t pull the likelihood is that you won’t – go out with the intention of doing so then you’re about 70% guaranteed to do so. In all honesty the last time I went out following the words “I won’t pull tonight” I got with 3 people and took someone home, it doesn’t always work out that way!

There are three key factors with a frame of mind, there’s one which I’ve spoken a great deal amount about which is confidence. If you’re assured within yourself that you CAN pull your target then the likelihood is that you will do so - if she’s Cheryl Cole you may want to think again…

The next factor is the way you move, it’s incredibly easy to tell when somebody’s nervous on a night out, having seen it from all three angles of work, pulling and not pulling I can appreciate the different mind-sets. You can spot the nervous guy in the corner who hasn’t pulled in about 3 months, you can spot “Jack the Lad” in the corner who thinks he’s amazing, and you can easily see the middleman who doesn’t care that much; Aim to be the middle man because essentially you’re likable.

If you know what kind of girl you want to pull you’re in a much better position, if you want to pull the easy type then that’s quite alright – go out and be confident and make the approach, more often than not it’ll be successful. If you’re after a fitty then it will take a lot more effort and preparation, in fairness it does pay off – having a debrief about getting with someone you’re pleased to get with is incredibly satisfying. There are the two main types, if you want to get a girlfriend then don’t pull at all, just go for the phone number and leave it at that; there’s nothing worse than pulling someone, meeting up with them and forgetting what they look like as you scout around where you agreed to meet! The key to pulling fit girls is being different, they expect guys to come to them so play hard to get.

Preparation is key; it’s like playing the piano if you don’t learn the notes then you can’t play the tune. If you look around, get the cheeky eye contact and then go in for the kill you can’t go far wrong, walking over and grinding always fails. Believe me. Even once you’ve gone over make some conversation, dance a little and for goodness sake make sure you or someone else knows their name!!

Persistence and failure go hand in hand. If you fail try and try again, for every one pull expect to be rejected 5 times as a minimum, perhaps this is over-zealous but it keeps your expectations low!! Once you’ve failed you have to keep the confidence up – another reason why pulling as a team is useful!

Appearance isn’t as important as you might think, girls don’t pull based on looks (madness), and they pull on personality and mental position. This is why frame of mind is as important as I’m putting across, when I go out thinking I look like shit I go home alone, if I think I look good (like Ron Burgundy) then I usually do alright. Don’t change how you look but dress well, and dress comfortably – you’re more likely to pull looking comfortable and yourself than you are looking “attractive”