Part II focuses on things you can practice and learn in order to appear more confident when on the pull, the conversation part is especially important and effective when coupled with body language and eye contact!
Conversation/Speech
First of all never
answer a question with one word, and always follow up an answer with another
question. As soon as she starts giving one word answers then either try or
change the topic or move on to somebody else, the secret to conversation is to
keep it flowing, varied and interesting!
Talk like a normal person, don’t use clichés but you can
prepare stories if they’re easy to relate to and interesting to the individuals
you’re with – judge your company and alter your manner accordingly.
If you can build a more personal relationship in this
then even better, listen to what you’re being told and remember it. Especially
remember people’s names and where they come from, and if they talk about
something for a long time continue discussing it with them, lie and say that
you share their interest if you’re confident enough!!
If you’re feeling very nervous use humour, it should make
you and her feel at ease and the best way to build the relationship that I’ve
focussed on so far is with this humour!
What to talk about? If you’re in a club talk about the
club because you can be confident she’ll have some knowledge, know your
surroundings and use them to your advantage. If it’s in a city you can then
talk about the city, where they went to school and try to find a common ground.
Once you have this “common ground” stick with it for a while and build a bond
so that she remembers you as the person who was interested in her.
Try to speak clearly and to the point, don’t finish every
sentence with “like” or “you know what I mean” because this instantly shows
girls how nervous you are! Also speak slowly and don’t mumble, there’s nothing
more awkward than a girl having to ask you to repeat yourself!
Complimenting the girl you’re talking to can be difficult
but can also be extremely successful, as I’ve said before focus on something
small that she wouldn’t normally be complimented on! Be Unique!!
Keep the balance of speech between you and her fairly
equal, if at all possible let her talk more than you but this is sometimes
impossible to achieve!
Specifics for nights out!
Strength in Numbers can be used very successfully, if
you’re out with people you like and can relate to then you’ll seem more at
home. Don’t be afraid to wing-man for your friends and learn from what they do
and from their mistakes, it also gives you an opportunity to watch how girls
react in a thoroughly unbiased manner!
Dressing in clothes your comfortable is just as important
as dressing in clothes that make you look good, if you can find a pair of
“pulling pants” then wear them, it might just give you that edge! Believe it or
not I have a shirt that I’ve never failed to pull in, if you’re feeling nervous
or like you won’t pull, put your item of clothing on and it WILL work wonders!
Dancing is another good way to boost your confidence,
make a fool of yourself or dance really well, you can’t lose if you can handle
yourself in the correct way relative to how you dance.
Don’t think about failure, I’ve spoken about this in a
separate post but the essence is that, realistically, what’s the worst that can
happen? It’s inevitable that one day someone’s going to say “No”, so you may as
well make that day today!
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