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Saturday 8 September 2012
Weekly Contest (2)
Hopefully this week will only be the one week, feel free to post anonymously/with a pseudonym and share your tips with readers!
As before the prize is simply pride and the opportunity, if you wish, to write a guest post!
As before the prize is simply pride and the opportunity, if you wish, to write a guest post!
Friday 7 September 2012
Friday Ploys (2)
This Friday takes over from Last Friday with 3 ploys/methods for you to use and try to pick up girls!
1. Being Famous. If you can pretend to be somebody that everyone knows then you're one step ahead of just about annyone else in the room. There are two ways that you can do this, the first is to do it on your own and talk on the phone about an upcoming film/song/deal depending on what role you wish to play. If you happen to look like someone famous then I would suggest sticking with them! The second, and best, way to do this is to have your friends act like you're a celebrity, ask for photos and signatures and it's bound to cause a stir!
2. Pretend to be a doctor or vet. I've never tried this but I'd be 80 percent sure if you pretended to be a vet who's been going through the trials of losing a puppy you'd pick up girls no problem. This is most likely to work in a pub and talk to your friends loudly about your day and what you do!
3. Raisin or date. This is a cross between a ploy and a chat-up line but it finds itself here because of the practical doing of the method. Make sure you have a box of raisins and a box of dates and go up to a girl and ask if she'd like a raisin. She'll probably say no in which case you can reply "How about a date then?" If she laughs it off then laugh as well and pull out your dates (not your testicles). If she says yes to the raisins then give her a raisin and then offer a date - you can't lose!
1. Being Famous. If you can pretend to be somebody that everyone knows then you're one step ahead of just about annyone else in the room. There are two ways that you can do this, the first is to do it on your own and talk on the phone about an upcoming film/song/deal depending on what role you wish to play. If you happen to look like someone famous then I would suggest sticking with them! The second, and best, way to do this is to have your friends act like you're a celebrity, ask for photos and signatures and it's bound to cause a stir!
2. Pretend to be a doctor or vet. I've never tried this but I'd be 80 percent sure if you pretended to be a vet who's been going through the trials of losing a puppy you'd pick up girls no problem. This is most likely to work in a pub and talk to your friends loudly about your day and what you do!
3. Raisin or date. This is a cross between a ploy and a chat-up line but it finds itself here because of the practical doing of the method. Make sure you have a box of raisins and a box of dates and go up to a girl and ask if she'd like a raisin. She'll probably say no in which case you can reply "How about a date then?" If she laughs it off then laugh as well and pull out your dates (not your testicles). If she says yes to the raisins then give her a raisin and then offer a date - you can't lose!
An Apology
It's been a week since my last blog post and for this I apologise, for numerous reasons - some of which were down to google I've had to remove some blog posts that were deemed inappropriate. Hopefully we're back up and running from now on.
Weekly Contest Result
The Winner of the "Weekly Contest" which turned into a bi-weekly contest was "True Charmer" - Congratulations! If you wish to write a guest article then please comment below!
Friday Ploys will return shortly and the blog shall continue in the same vain as it did previous to the last week
Feedback - All feedback is more than welcomed and constructive criticism is preferred!
Weekly Contest Result
The Winner of the "Weekly Contest" which turned into a bi-weekly contest was "True Charmer" - Congratulations! If you wish to write a guest article then please comment below!
Friday Ploys will return shortly and the blog shall continue in the same vain as it did previous to the last week
Feedback - All feedback is more than welcomed and constructive criticism is preferred!
Wednesday 29 August 2012
Chat-Up Line Wednesday! (No. 2)
Another week and another set of chat-up lines, three to try and three to avoid!
1. Do you know how much a polar bear weighs? Enough to break the ice... (Alternative - why don't we go back to mine and google it?)
2. There's something wrong with my phone, it doesn't have your number in it...
3. Have you got a map? Because I'm lost in your eyes...
1. Are you free tonight or will it cost me?
2. I'm not actually this tall, I'm just sat on my wallet...
3. I may not be the best looking guy in this room, but I'm the only one talking to you...
Feel free to comment with your own below!
1. Do you know how much a polar bear weighs? Enough to break the ice... (Alternative - why don't we go back to mine and google it?)
2. There's something wrong with my phone, it doesn't have your number in it...
3. Have you got a map? Because I'm lost in your eyes...
1. Are you free tonight or will it cost me?
2. I'm not actually this tall, I'm just sat on my wallet...
3. I may not be the best looking guy in this room, but I'm the only one talking to you...
Feel free to comment with your own below!
Tuesday 28 August 2012
Boosting Confidence (Part II)
Part II focuses on things you can practice and learn in order to appear more confident when on the pull, the conversation part is especially important and effective when coupled with body language and eye contact!
Conversation/Speech
First of all never
answer a question with one word, and always follow up an answer with another
question. As soon as she starts giving one word answers then either try or
change the topic or move on to somebody else, the secret to conversation is to
keep it flowing, varied and interesting!
Talk like a normal person, don’t use clichés but you can
prepare stories if they’re easy to relate to and interesting to the individuals
you’re with – judge your company and alter your manner accordingly.
If you can build a more personal relationship in this
then even better, listen to what you’re being told and remember it. Especially
remember people’s names and where they come from, and if they talk about
something for a long time continue discussing it with them, lie and say that
you share their interest if you’re confident enough!!
If you’re feeling very nervous use humour, it should make
you and her feel at ease and the best way to build the relationship that I’ve
focussed on so far is with this humour!
What to talk about? If you’re in a club talk about the
club because you can be confident she’ll have some knowledge, know your
surroundings and use them to your advantage. If it’s in a city you can then
talk about the city, where they went to school and try to find a common ground.
Once you have this “common ground” stick with it for a while and build a bond
so that she remembers you as the person who was interested in her.
Try to speak clearly and to the point, don’t finish every
sentence with “like” or “you know what I mean” because this instantly shows
girls how nervous you are! Also speak slowly and don’t mumble, there’s nothing
more awkward than a girl having to ask you to repeat yourself!
Complimenting the girl you’re talking to can be difficult
but can also be extremely successful, as I’ve said before focus on something
small that she wouldn’t normally be complimented on! Be Unique!!
Keep the balance of speech between you and her fairly
equal, if at all possible let her talk more than you but this is sometimes
impossible to achieve!
Specifics for nights out!
Strength in Numbers can be used very successfully, if
you’re out with people you like and can relate to then you’ll seem more at
home. Don’t be afraid to wing-man for your friends and learn from what they do
and from their mistakes, it also gives you an opportunity to watch how girls
react in a thoroughly unbiased manner!
Dressing in clothes your comfortable is just as important
as dressing in clothes that make you look good, if you can find a pair of
“pulling pants” then wear them, it might just give you that edge! Believe it or
not I have a shirt that I’ve never failed to pull in, if you’re feeling nervous
or like you won’t pull, put your item of clothing on and it WILL work wonders!
Dancing is another good way to boost your confidence,
make a fool of yourself or dance really well, you can’t lose if you can handle
yourself in the correct way relative to how you dance.
Don’t think about failure, I’ve spoken about this in a
separate post but the essence is that, realistically, what’s the worst that can
happen? It’s inevitable that one day someone’s going to say “No”, so you may as
well make that day today!
Monday 27 August 2012
Boosting Confidence (Part 1)
How To Solve The Confidence “Problem” - The mental processes
I’ve spoken about this at leanght to say the least,
therefore I believe it’s time to tackle the issue head-on, although it’s not
directly to do with pulling it is clearly a major part! Personally I learn by
doing and therefore by taking that first step and going for it you end up being
70% of the way there. Part II will focus more on physical appearance and less on the mental aspects of confidence, the tips below you can learn without putting them directly into practice, the next part isn't quite that easy!
Mental Preparation
Know your strengths – if you think about what you’re good
at and what you’ve achieved and focus upon this then you should feel much more
comfortable in the situation – if you pulled the night before focus on that and
your mind will be more assured that you will do the same tonight.
Look at what you want to achieve and where you want to go
– if you want a one night stand then reminding yourself of this will help, if
you want something more serious then focus on that.
Positive Mental Thinking should never be underrated, if
you tell yourself that you’re going to go out and pull then it’s much more
likely that you will do so. If you know in yourself what your aim is, and more
importantly that it is a doable aim – you will have much more confidence.
Preparation continues through the process, if you set
yourself the target of talking to 3 different girls the first night, 6 the next
and then 9 the one after that you’ll find that you aren’t daunted at all, and
are actually learning by doing!
Body Language
Eye Contact is the most important part of confidence,
even if you don’t feel confident in yourself by exuding self-esteem and
confidence you are much more likely to succeed.
Be open and relaxed, keep your feel apart and your hands
out of your pockets, it’s like speaking in public if you move your hands people
will be more in tune not only with what you’re saying, but with you as a
person.
Looking like you’re listening sounds simple but if you
can give the occasional nod and positive response in a conversation with a girl
they’ll like you more, and think that you value their time and therefore value
yours.
Smile, facial expressions show everything without us
realising it; If you’re scared then it’ll show. Perfect a smile that you can
show even when you’re nervous and people will be none the wiser to your frame
of mind and that point.
Sunday 26 August 2012
Dancing (Part II)
And so begins part two of the dancing blog, in this part we'll assume that having followed some, if not all of the tips in part I you are now "dancing" with a girl! First of all don't take dance lessons and waste your money, and don't learn the moves to "We No Speak Americano" Inbetweener style...
The Approach - Don't sneak up, make sure she's aware of you being there and approach her not directly from the front but at an angle. The reason for this is that she won't feel threatened and you'll look that you're not TOO into her, but you are interested - the worst thing you can do in the whole of puling is to look desperate. Hopefully before even making your approach you've made eye contact, therefore you should be feeling confident that you'll be successful and this will come across!
The Alternative - This is mainly the waiting game as you either wait for her to approach you, or wait for her to call you over, this is often a better way if you have low confidence or are unsure if she's interested in you.
General Dancing- Always take the lead and get HER to dance with You, what I mean by this is that if you want to dance in a certain way then do so, this significantly improves your chances and makes you look calm and composed! Focus on her, don't look at other girls or your friends at this point otherwise se'll get bored and realise she might be wasting her time. Keep time, if you can dance even averagely then this isn't a problem, however if there's one secret of dancing it's to be in rhythm, it really isn't that hard and even practice a little bit!
Touching - It's usually best to let her make the first move, but use your dancing to get into positions that you can work from; for example get low and put your hands on her hips, if she doesn't want it to happen then she'll stop you. If she wants to heighten what's going on she will do so - and if that happens then you're in - Congratulations!
Grinding - This is the fail-safe of dancing with girls, simply get behind her and move a little bit, you only learn by doing so if you're terrible don't worry about it! Don't "hump" because it's the worst thing you can do, if she's happy with it then she's a complete slag however if she's not she won't be happy with it and will more than likely cut it off, and end the dancing altogether!
Slow Dancing - This is tricky in a club and the opportunity rarely arises, however you may well end up with a DJ who wants to make it happen! Move slowly and in time with her and she will reciprocate, by this point you should be pretty confident about going home with the girl!
"The NPS" - This is thoroughly untested by me, however having read about it I'm fairly impressed and think that perhaps it can work! I'll let you know what happens next time I go out! Get close to a girl and start dancing, then gradually move your hand close to hers and very slowly try and hold her hand! Half hold her hand and then give the signal that if she was to react it would take place! If she takes your hand then you're in, gradually spin her around and then you're done - congratulations!! (http://howtopullgirls.co.uk/content/how%202.htm)
The Approach - Don't sneak up, make sure she's aware of you being there and approach her not directly from the front but at an angle. The reason for this is that she won't feel threatened and you'll look that you're not TOO into her, but you are interested - the worst thing you can do in the whole of puling is to look desperate. Hopefully before even making your approach you've made eye contact, therefore you should be feeling confident that you'll be successful and this will come across!
The Alternative - This is mainly the waiting game as you either wait for her to approach you, or wait for her to call you over, this is often a better way if you have low confidence or are unsure if she's interested in you.
General Dancing- Always take the lead and get HER to dance with You, what I mean by this is that if you want to dance in a certain way then do so, this significantly improves your chances and makes you look calm and composed! Focus on her, don't look at other girls or your friends at this point otherwise se'll get bored and realise she might be wasting her time. Keep time, if you can dance even averagely then this isn't a problem, however if there's one secret of dancing it's to be in rhythm, it really isn't that hard and even practice a little bit!
Touching - It's usually best to let her make the first move, but use your dancing to get into positions that you can work from; for example get low and put your hands on her hips, if she doesn't want it to happen then she'll stop you. If she wants to heighten what's going on she will do so - and if that happens then you're in - Congratulations!
Grinding - This is the fail-safe of dancing with girls, simply get behind her and move a little bit, you only learn by doing so if you're terrible don't worry about it! Don't "hump" because it's the worst thing you can do, if she's happy with it then she's a complete slag however if she's not she won't be happy with it and will more than likely cut it off, and end the dancing altogether!
Slow Dancing - This is tricky in a club and the opportunity rarely arises, however you may well end up with a DJ who wants to make it happen! Move slowly and in time with her and she will reciprocate, by this point you should be pretty confident about going home with the girl!
"The NPS" - This is thoroughly untested by me, however having read about it I'm fairly impressed and think that perhaps it can work! I'll let you know what happens next time I go out! Get close to a girl and start dancing, then gradually move your hand close to hers and very slowly try and hold her hand! Half hold her hand and then give the signal that if she was to react it would take place! If she takes your hand then you're in, gradually spin her around and then you're done - congratulations!! (http://howtopullgirls.co.uk/content/how%202.htm)
Saturday 25 August 2012
Weekly Contest
Every week I intend to host a contest for viewers to comment with their best "pulling tip", the prize will purely be prestige and the opportunity, if you wish to take it, to be a guest blogger on a topic of your choice. I'm aware very few people will want to comment, but if we could avoid the awkwardness of nobody commenting that would be fantastic!
Post Your Comments!!!
Post Your Comments!!!
Dancing (Part I)
When dancing you have two main paths that you can follow, you
can either be a sheep and follow everyone else or you can be different.
Personally I aim for a mix between the two depending on where I am, who I’m
with and what mood I’m in! I’m going to have two posts on dancing, the first on
dancing without girls the second regarding when you’re with them.
I’ve already said that I try to mix the two, this is because
they both have fairly major strengths and weaknesses, starting with following
the crowd I would recommend reading wiki how to get the basics (http://www.wikihow.com/Dance). I try to
just slightly copy what everyone else is doing without putting much effort in,
if for some reason you’re an amazing dancer then go for it! If not then keep it
simple.
People try to dance in groups/circles – I’m not a big fan
both because it takes away any possibility of you being able to pull, and it
takes up an obscene about of room and gets on people’s nerves. However I know
people that stand by this as a technique because in many ways it makes people
around you feel inferior, if you’re out with a large number of people girls may
think you’re popular etc. – if this is the case, use it!
Being different is more likely to work when trying to pull,
that’s my belief at any rate… Some ideas for dancing differently could be
interpretive dance (probably not the best one to choose), mime works brilliantly or if you can’t dance come up with some sort of tribal dance, I’ve not tried this but if you
and your friends can come up with a tribal dance to call me maybe, you’ll never
need to try and pull again!
Mime ideas, these are taken from the repertoire of me and a
friend and so to name but a few, the ride on lawn mower (when coupled with
reversing noises), push mower, knapsack sprayer, sprinklers, the alarm, and if
you really want to go for it whack out the rugby try!
While dancing you should try at all times to be following
the steps described in groundwork, make as much eye contact with as many people
as possible. It may so happen that a girl calls you over, if this does occur
then go for it – there’s nothing to lose and perhaps a lot to gain.
Once you’ve made eye contact with a girl a few times and
selected your targets it’s an idea to try to mimic what she does a little bit.
If she mimics you then move closer – many people stand by letting the girl come
to them but I think it’s best to be in control. It’s important to remember that
girls often dance in groups in order to deflect guys – take the step up and
break into the group, and follow the hard to get ploy and your hard work should
pay off!
And this video may give you help, then again you may think
(like me) that it’s possibly the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever watched… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HbtD_y_X3SU
Friday 24 August 2012
Friday Ploys!
Every Friday I'm going to try and post three moves/ploys that are worth a try on nights out!
"I've lost all my friends; I don’t have a clue where they’ve
gone do you mind if I hang around with you?"
This has worked for me a few times in the past; it’s usually
more successful if you have some sort of connection beforehand! Even if it’s something
highly immaterial like a smile make sure you’ve had some sort of contact
otherwise you’re just a complete random
The Wingman
The wingman has two main purposes, firstly to help you and
secondly to be a hindrance and “to cock-block” others. I’ve used and been a
wingman and the place it really comes into its own is if you’re going after
foreign girls and your wingman speaks the language!! Another purpose for your wingman is to distract the girl’s
friends, or he can simply make a dick of himself and allow you to apologise –
this is a truly fantastic way in and creates an instant bond between you and
the girls!
Play Hard to Get
This either works or hugely backfires, it depends on both
you and her but you can usually spot if it’s going Pete tong and remedy the
situation.There are two ways that you can do this, either by hitting
on her friends or just being completely disinterested. I've found that the
first one works the best but do it in such a way that you just seem to be a
lovely bloke! IF you’re really obvious about it she’ll get bored – make her
jealous! I've always stopped short of actively insulting a girl, because I
believe this will inevitably back-fire and make you look like a tool!!
How to Deal with An Angry Boyfriend
This is one of the most awkward situations you can find
yourself in, especially if they happen to be a reasonably hence rugby player in
a pink vest top. I’ve always stood by the practice of apologising and trying to
put a positive spin on it, even make a joke.
It’s essential to sort it out on the night because if you
don’t you end up with two possibilities, you either see him around when sober
or you see him on another night . If you can get away with not being punched or
physically assaulted you’re probably onto a winner!
If you know the angry boyfriend then you may as well just
run, you’ll see him again when sober and it’ll be awkward, if you’ve failed to
sort it out then that’s life – you’ve got to deal with it and move on!
Thursday 23 August 2012
Failure
I'm already aware that I've spoken about this at some length, however failure is 50% of what we're discussing. In reality it is probably higher than this depending on who you are - anyone who's never experienced failure is lying, and doing themselves no good by doing so.
Failure will come in one of two forms when you're trying to pull, either subtly or blatantly obviously; and it will be delivered in one of two manners, brutally or softly! You should always hope for soft and subtle but it's very rare that you'll get this, especially if you've just walked up to a girl and started grinding on her!
How to deal with it - it's like falling off a horse, you just have to get back on again! If you give up and get down then you have absolutely no chance; once it's happened move on and look for someone else, perhaps a different type of person and certainly not one of their friends.
The next thing to be sure that you do is learn from it, perhaps not on the night but the morning after. Look back and think about what you did wrong, where you could have improved, I've woken up and thought about things and realised what amateur errors I've made and beaten myself up about it. However on the night moving on is essential - forget the mistake and move on.
Making these mistakes is part of life and you should use them to your advantage, some of the people I've failed to pull have become really good friends to me and have actually given me advice! The simplest way to put it is that every mistake is a learning experience...
Failure will come in one of two forms when you're trying to pull, either subtly or blatantly obviously; and it will be delivered in one of two manners, brutally or softly! You should always hope for soft and subtle but it's very rare that you'll get this, especially if you've just walked up to a girl and started grinding on her!
How to deal with it - it's like falling off a horse, you just have to get back on again! If you give up and get down then you have absolutely no chance; once it's happened move on and look for someone else, perhaps a different type of person and certainly not one of their friends.
The next thing to be sure that you do is learn from it, perhaps not on the night but the morning after. Look back and think about what you did wrong, where you could have improved, I've woken up and thought about things and realised what amateur errors I've made and beaten myself up about it. However on the night moving on is essential - forget the mistake and move on.
Making these mistakes is part of life and you should use them to your advantage, some of the people I've failed to pull have become really good friends to me and have actually given me advice! The simplest way to put it is that every mistake is a learning experience...
Advice
First of all let me explain that I think, without question, you should take advice; be it from me or anyone else. However some advice can be more useful than others, I'm more than happy to admit that some of the things I post on here are weak, and not as effective as others!
Use your elders, if you can build a bond with an older sibling, cousin or even your parents this is invaluable, you'll learn more from their mistakes than you will do from your successes! This also means that you'll fail less before improving your success rate. Whether or not you should listen to your friends is an incredibly difficult question to answer, and one that only realistically you know; I have two clear sets those at uni and those outside. I would trust those at uni to be truthful and not to exaggerate, however the advice that I get from outside may be more useful to me personally - however that's just me!
You should always give advice, this is part of the reason I'e started this blog. In particular when you're entering a new situation you should find out all you can before entering this situation - not just about pulling but about life. This is why in this post I've included firstly the three main bits of advice I'd give, and second of all a short piece on what to expect from university life/freshers. I understand that this will be somewhat irrelevant to some, in which case skip it, however to those who are interested read away
Three Top Tips
1. Be Confident
2. Be Yourself
3. Read the situation - alter yourself to both your setting and who it is you're with
The Freshers Guide
Freshers is the hardest, but best part of uni life; You're extracted from your home life and placed in a new life with entirely new people. If you want to reinvent yourself then this is your opportunity - if you want to make a reputation for yourself do it now! The first day will be the hardest but be yourself and be outgoing and try to get on with everyone - you'll be surprised how easily the effort is reciprocated. The first night out just go out without any expectations, don't try and pull just have a good time and get to know who you're living with. At my uni freshers week is intertwined with lectures so I didn't have that much free time. if you do find yourself at a lose end spend it with people.
My one key piece of advice would be don't shut yourself away because you're unhappy, get out and meet people and you'll have a far better time than if you kept yourself to yourself!
Use your elders, if you can build a bond with an older sibling, cousin or even your parents this is invaluable, you'll learn more from their mistakes than you will do from your successes! This also means that you'll fail less before improving your success rate. Whether or not you should listen to your friends is an incredibly difficult question to answer, and one that only realistically you know; I have two clear sets those at uni and those outside. I would trust those at uni to be truthful and not to exaggerate, however the advice that I get from outside may be more useful to me personally - however that's just me!
You should always give advice, this is part of the reason I'e started this blog. In particular when you're entering a new situation you should find out all you can before entering this situation - not just about pulling but about life. This is why in this post I've included firstly the three main bits of advice I'd give, and second of all a short piece on what to expect from university life/freshers. I understand that this will be somewhat irrelevant to some, in which case skip it, however to those who are interested read away
Three Top Tips
1. Be Confident
2. Be Yourself
3. Read the situation - alter yourself to both your setting and who it is you're with
The Freshers Guide
Freshers is the hardest, but best part of uni life; You're extracted from your home life and placed in a new life with entirely new people. If you want to reinvent yourself then this is your opportunity - if you want to make a reputation for yourself do it now! The first day will be the hardest but be yourself and be outgoing and try to get on with everyone - you'll be surprised how easily the effort is reciprocated. The first night out just go out without any expectations, don't try and pull just have a good time and get to know who you're living with. At my uni freshers week is intertwined with lectures so I didn't have that much free time. if you do find yourself at a lose end spend it with people.
My one key piece of advice would be don't shut yourself away because you're unhappy, get out and meet people and you'll have a far better time than if you kept yourself to yourself!
Wednesday 22 August 2012
The Art of Conversation
Making conversation is hard enough when it's just you and her, when you're in a night-club filled with people it's far more difficult! What I try to do is to think of the next topic/question while she's answering the current one! Although it seems forced it keeps it flowing and interesting, as well as varied so that she doesn't get bored.
The key to conversation is so that neither of you get bored, because as soon as you look disinterested in what she's saying it's pretty much game over! Finding that common ground is crucial, if she has an interest that you know about then it's far easier! Once you're onto one topic then stay on it for as long as possible!! For one thing, don't talk about sex; unless she brings it up in which case run with it!
You may well be one of those people who gets on with everyone, can think on your feet and have a variation of interests then you've got a massive advantage! The situation you are in can also be used to your advantage, if you're on a student night the obvious questions about course, year, etc. However, don't get bogged down on education because girls don't go out to talk about university education! One way to succeed is by discussing things about her life outside of uni altogether - it makes her feel at ease, like she's known you longer and you're more secure in her eyes.
The opening of conversation is exceptionally difficult, chat-up lines are an easy way in but have a reasonably low rate of success (see Chat-up Lines Wednesday for ideas!). Just be natural and discuss the music, saying a club's terrible can work sometimes but you run the risk that it's her favourite place to go!
Talk about her - I have a tendency to talk too much about myself and by focusing on her she thinks that you're a better guy (perhaps better than you actually are...). Once you find yourself chatting easily and building a relationship then you're in the game, furthermore once she thinks that she know you she's far more likely to get with you!
A sign that you can pick-up when you're having conversations with a girl is if she mimics your tone/asks numerous questions herself more often than not, "it's on"!
"That" Question : I find it incredibly difficult to actually ask whether I can get with the girl, instead try and be obvious enough so that she asks the question "are you hitting on me?". You then have a choice, whether you want to admit you are or deny all knowledge; personally I think by this point you have nothing to lose so may as well admit you are and go in for the kill!!
The conversation will obviously have to end in one of three ways, firstly you'll get with her - congratulations; secondly you'll get her phone number (see upcoming post on texting!) or thirdly you'll have to awkwardly leave! If she wants to get out of it then it's easy done, let her go and walk away with your head held high! This doesn't necessarily have to be the end of it, you may see her later in the night and this crucial groundwork will have paid off!!
The key to conversation is so that neither of you get bored, because as soon as you look disinterested in what she's saying it's pretty much game over! Finding that common ground is crucial, if she has an interest that you know about then it's far easier! Once you're onto one topic then stay on it for as long as possible!! For one thing, don't talk about sex; unless she brings it up in which case run with it!
You may well be one of those people who gets on with everyone, can think on your feet and have a variation of interests then you've got a massive advantage! The situation you are in can also be used to your advantage, if you're on a student night the obvious questions about course, year, etc. However, don't get bogged down on education because girls don't go out to talk about university education! One way to succeed is by discussing things about her life outside of uni altogether - it makes her feel at ease, like she's known you longer and you're more secure in her eyes.
The opening of conversation is exceptionally difficult, chat-up lines are an easy way in but have a reasonably low rate of success (see Chat-up Lines Wednesday for ideas!). Just be natural and discuss the music, saying a club's terrible can work sometimes but you run the risk that it's her favourite place to go!
Talk about her - I have a tendency to talk too much about myself and by focusing on her she thinks that you're a better guy (perhaps better than you actually are...). Once you find yourself chatting easily and building a relationship then you're in the game, furthermore once she thinks that she know you she's far more likely to get with you!
A sign that you can pick-up when you're having conversations with a girl is if she mimics your tone/asks numerous questions herself more often than not, "it's on"!
"That" Question : I find it incredibly difficult to actually ask whether I can get with the girl, instead try and be obvious enough so that she asks the question "are you hitting on me?". You then have a choice, whether you want to admit you are or deny all knowledge; personally I think by this point you have nothing to lose so may as well admit you are and go in for the kill!!
The conversation will obviously have to end in one of three ways, firstly you'll get with her - congratulations; secondly you'll get her phone number (see upcoming post on texting!) or thirdly you'll have to awkwardly leave! If she wants to get out of it then it's easy done, let her go and walk away with your head held high! This doesn't necessarily have to be the end of it, you may see her later in the night and this crucial groundwork will have paid off!!
The Joys of Alcohol
I’ve never once bought a girl a drink and then pulled her
for the first time – for some reason it just doesn’t work for me. It’s quite
useful as an opener in a conversation or to break the ice however buying drink
to get girls drunk is a, expensive and b, a little bit rapey!
If you are going to buy a drink don’t go mental, either buy
one shot or one drink and drink the same as her – that way you aren’t hanging
around for ages waiting. The secret to this, if you’ve made your decision, is
to make sure you stay with the girl having done this! It may surprise you but
worryingly girls have bought me drinks more often than I have them – I have no
idea what the reason is!
I’ve spoken briefly about drinking previously had stated
that it is a “double edged sword”, I’ve only pulled on a night out sober once,
the rest of the times I’ve been drinking. Drink undoubtedly increases the
amount of people you try and get with, but surprisingly your success ratio
remains pretty much the same. I would suggest drink, but don’t get absolutely
hammered so that you’re either vomming or making a tool of yourself.
Always work out how drunk a girl is before you start otherwise
you will get the rapist tag. If she’s drunk but still completely conscious then
it’s acceptable, if she’s staggering around in a mess walk away. Drunken girls
are easier to pull, and they’re easier to get on with so that even if you fail
you can expect a much more polite/nice rejection!
Chat-Up Line Wednesday!
Every Wednesday the intention is to post Six Chat-up lines, Three that work (probably) and three that don't!
1. Are you from Tennessee? Because you're the only ten I see? (This does actually work - from experience...)
2. Can I borrow your Phone? I promised my mum I'd ring her when I met my soul-mate
3. Fat Penguin, I just wanted to say something to break the ice...
1. Are you an Official? Because you're officially giving me a boner...
2. Pick a Number between 1 and 10. Sorry you got it wrong take off your clothes...
3. Do you sleep on your stomach? No? Can I?
These can all work in different ways, be original and then take on of two paths. Either take it seriously or make a joke out of it, laughter's an even better way to break the ice than shouting fat penguin!
1. Are you from Tennessee? Because you're the only ten I see? (This does actually work - from experience...)
2. Can I borrow your Phone? I promised my mum I'd ring her when I met my soul-mate
3. Fat Penguin, I just wanted to say something to break the ice...
1. Are you an Official? Because you're officially giving me a boner...
2. Pick a Number between 1 and 10. Sorry you got it wrong take off your clothes...
3. Do you sleep on your stomach? No? Can I?
These can all work in different ways, be original and then take on of two paths. Either take it seriously or make a joke out of it, laughter's an even better way to break the ice than shouting fat penguin!
Body Language
This is going to be split into two sections, firstly developing your own body language and secondly interpreting that of your target's.
Your Body Language
If you can exude confidence while being relaxed you have no need for pointers on this topic, however there are very few people that can manage this. Firstly don't take up the "Alpha Male" position, pointing your hands towards your crotch doesn't work and instantly gives you away, just act naturally! The two best ways to suggest confidence are by having your hands out of your pockets, and to have your hand held high, this gets you 90% of the way there! Slow down your body movements and keep yourself open - this makes you seem approachable and easy going!
Her Body Language
It's a myth that women are hard to interpret, the signs are there you just have to spot them. Firstly look at where their feet are pointing, if they point at you then you can tick this box. If they're being flirty then this is the easiest and most obvious sign to spot - it will be mainly extra laughing, keeping the conversation going as well as eye contact which is easy to spot and it'll be there by the bucket load. If she touches her hair and fidgets with her hands a lot this is again an easy sign to spot, and is one of the most dependable!
There are 3 key points to spot
1. Eye Contact
2. Eye-lash Fluttering
3. The Feet Point
Your Body Language
If you can exude confidence while being relaxed you have no need for pointers on this topic, however there are very few people that can manage this. Firstly don't take up the "Alpha Male" position, pointing your hands towards your crotch doesn't work and instantly gives you away, just act naturally! The two best ways to suggest confidence are by having your hands out of your pockets, and to have your hand held high, this gets you 90% of the way there! Slow down your body movements and keep yourself open - this makes you seem approachable and easy going!
Her Body Language
It's a myth that women are hard to interpret, the signs are there you just have to spot them. Firstly look at where their feet are pointing, if they point at you then you can tick this box. If they're being flirty then this is the easiest and most obvious sign to spot - it will be mainly extra laughing, keeping the conversation going as well as eye contact which is easy to spot and it'll be there by the bucket load. If she touches her hair and fidgets with her hands a lot this is again an easy sign to spot, and is one of the most dependable!
There are 3 key points to spot
1. Eye Contact
2. Eye-lash Fluttering
3. The Feet Point
Tuesday 21 August 2012
Eye Contact
I promised in my last post information on eye contact, so here it is. Your eyes are probably the most useful tool at your disposal when trying to pull girls, it gives you the opportunity to make attempts on numerous people, very subtly and more often than not without them realising it!
Stage 1 - The Glance
Just act as you normally would on a night out - the best way to make this successful is just to act naturally. Gradually start looking around and make no attempt to make eye contact - It will just happen. Once you've made contact with three different people and you think they've noticed you move onto Stage 2!
Stage 2 - The Linger
Out of the three choices choose one "target" and glance again, trying to make eye contact. If she smiles or makes any positive response move onto stage 2; If she looks scared, or whispers to her mates and they all frown, move onto one of the others!
Stage 3 - Time
If you had a positive response to Stage 2 then gradually increase the amount of time you spend "gazing" at the girl, if she continues to reciprocate and act positively then move to Stage 4. However, if she doesn't look at you it's one of two reasons, she's either playing hard to get or she's scared; The safest way to deal with this is to move on but if you're really interested take the plunge and go over! Trust your gut instinct
Stage 4 - Eye Sex
Eye sex is thoroughly under-rated as a pass time, the secret is to start slow and non-sexual. Move first to her lips and then back up to her eyes gradually increasing the distance away from her eyes you're looking - avoid boobs because it makes you look common!! Once you've looked all over then go for the money glance, once you've achieved this step she'll either walk away (you've blown it), walk towards you (you're in) or stay where she is.
Stage 5 - Going in For The Kill
If she stays where she is after Stage 4 go over and make conversation, no matter who she's with or where she is it has to be done! If you're man enough to carry out the final step then you've succeeded - Congratulations!
Stage 1 - The Glance
Just act as you normally would on a night out - the best way to make this successful is just to act naturally. Gradually start looking around and make no attempt to make eye contact - It will just happen. Once you've made contact with three different people and you think they've noticed you move onto Stage 2!
Stage 2 - The Linger
Out of the three choices choose one "target" and glance again, trying to make eye contact. If she smiles or makes any positive response move onto stage 2; If she looks scared, or whispers to her mates and they all frown, move onto one of the others!
Stage 3 - Time
If you had a positive response to Stage 2 then gradually increase the amount of time you spend "gazing" at the girl, if she continues to reciprocate and act positively then move to Stage 4. However, if she doesn't look at you it's one of two reasons, she's either playing hard to get or she's scared; The safest way to deal with this is to move on but if you're really interested take the plunge and go over! Trust your gut instinct
Stage 4 - Eye Sex
Eye sex is thoroughly under-rated as a pass time, the secret is to start slow and non-sexual. Move first to her lips and then back up to her eyes gradually increasing the distance away from her eyes you're looking - avoid boobs because it makes you look common!! Once you've looked all over then go for the money glance, once you've achieved this step she'll either walk away (you've blown it), walk towards you (you're in) or stay where she is.
Stage 5 - Going in For The Kill
If she stays where she is after Stage 4 go over and make conversation, no matter who she's with or where she is it has to be done! If you're man enough to carry out the final step then you've succeeded - Congratulations!
Ground Work
The Ground-Work is an incredibly delicate process, and if there's one key secret it's don't try and pull her!
The Smile
Never underestimate the power of a smile, one of my friends has a picture of himself smiling by his bed and practices; In no way am I saying this is an acceptable thing do and I'm embarrassed for him; But it does emphasise its' importance! If you're on the fringes of the dance floor and a girl walks by - give her a smile, there's an 80% chance she'll smile back and you have an instant connection. Girls are more likely to get with someone they think they know (even a little bit) than a complete stranger. The smile works just about anywhere, while dancing, in the queue for the bar, even coming out of the toilet...
Eye Contact
Another important part is learning how to have what people call "eye sex". This is going to come in a post later on today but the basics are if you make eye contact a few times - gradually lengthen how long your eyes linger and then move to different parts of her body! Once you've made eye contact a few times either you got to her or she'll come to you!
Focus
Don't just focus on one girl, play hard to get a little bit and try to make them realise that you're not their property! This also has the added bonus of hedging your bets that if you get rejected you always have a back-up option waiting in the wings.
Flirting and Conversation
For the basics of this see the previous post, but it's about building a relationship before sealing the deal, it always increases your chances of being successful!
The Connection?
Once you feel you've built a relationship you can start dancing (post to follow) the easiest way to do this is non-committal and don't dance with her only. If she's with friends move around and get to know them as well, strength in numbers is what girls use and you must break this down.
Once you've carried out these steps you've completed ground work, have at least one target and can move on to the next stage!
The Smile
Never underestimate the power of a smile, one of my friends has a picture of himself smiling by his bed and practices; In no way am I saying this is an acceptable thing do and I'm embarrassed for him; But it does emphasise its' importance! If you're on the fringes of the dance floor and a girl walks by - give her a smile, there's an 80% chance she'll smile back and you have an instant connection. Girls are more likely to get with someone they think they know (even a little bit) than a complete stranger. The smile works just about anywhere, while dancing, in the queue for the bar, even coming out of the toilet...
Eye Contact
Another important part is learning how to have what people call "eye sex". This is going to come in a post later on today but the basics are if you make eye contact a few times - gradually lengthen how long your eyes linger and then move to different parts of her body! Once you've made eye contact a few times either you got to her or she'll come to you!
Focus
Don't just focus on one girl, play hard to get a little bit and try to make them realise that you're not their property! This also has the added bonus of hedging your bets that if you get rejected you always have a back-up option waiting in the wings.
Flirting and Conversation
For the basics of this see the previous post, but it's about building a relationship before sealing the deal, it always increases your chances of being successful!
The Connection?
Once you feel you've built a relationship you can start dancing (post to follow) the easiest way to do this is non-committal and don't dance with her only. If she's with friends move around and get to know them as well, strength in numbers is what girls use and you must break this down.
Once you've carried out these steps you've completed ground work, have at least one target and can move on to the next stage!
Know Your Strengths (And Weaknesses)
Back to the game this morning - it's vitally important that you know yourself just as well as you know who you're trying to pull. We all have strengths in this area, and knowing these can help you tailor your methods to suit you.
Looks
If you're good looking then you obviously need to do less work, however it's how you use these looks. It's like women - if a 5 surrounds herself with 2's she looks like an 8, believe it or not try and do the same; if you're the best looking guy in a group then you have more chance! However, I've never been the looker and I do fine - being good looking can often back-fire, I have friends that know they look good and do terribly - girls can sense when people think they're brilliant and they are turned off. By being down to earth and confident coupled with good looks you'll have a much higher rate of success.
Charm and Conversation
Speaking to girls is the best way to pull. Fact. Once you start a conversation you're in with a shout, and to be honest the longer the conversation the better; it once took me half an hour talking to someone to get with them - but it paid off!! If you can talk to girls at ease, charm them and be interesting then they may well go for you! Paying compliments can be difficult, it can either make you look like a complete tool or seal the deal. The secret is to focus on something small and unique - a bracelet, their eyes or even their laugh; if you can say something they don't normally hear it helps you a great deal! But what if you can't talk to girls? Firstly sort yourself out, man-up and do it! If you still can't do it then often a good way is through eye sex, this topic will have it's own post so watch this space!!
Being Different
If you think you don't have this strength, then you've found your strength. You're so pessimistic and down to earth that you're different - hopefully this means that you can take the mick out of yourself. If you can be unique or do something that girls don't expect then you're on to a winner - even playing hard to get can work as girls expect you to them, don't.
Drinking
This is an impossible topic to write about. There's something that can be attractive about every type of drinker, be it the one who doesn't drink, the one who drinks to have a good time, the light-weight who's just a mess or the guy who can down pints like water. If you find out which one of these you are then it'll be an advantage. Not being able to drink heavily may seem like a weakness - try it both ways by being the drunkard and the sober one. The amount of times I've pulled because of my friends being horrifically drunk is countless - a simple apology goes a long way (and it's an excuse to buy them a drink...)
Dancing
I'm a terrible dancer - it's a massive weakness. However this weakness can be turned into a strength; by dancing like a dick you actually can look good, easy-going and up for a good time (not as sexual as it sounds I'm afraid...). I've spoken about mime before and I stand by that as a quality solution, although you get laughed at play the long-game and it works quite nicely! If you can dance well then you're sorted, the only dancing better than this is dancing that's different, if it's cool then girls will watch and talk to you!
The tip that comes out from this really is being unique, find your unique strength (or weakness for that matter) and you'll succeed.
Looks
If you're good looking then you obviously need to do less work, however it's how you use these looks. It's like women - if a 5 surrounds herself with 2's she looks like an 8, believe it or not try and do the same; if you're the best looking guy in a group then you have more chance! However, I've never been the looker and I do fine - being good looking can often back-fire, I have friends that know they look good and do terribly - girls can sense when people think they're brilliant and they are turned off. By being down to earth and confident coupled with good looks you'll have a much higher rate of success.
Charm and Conversation
Speaking to girls is the best way to pull. Fact. Once you start a conversation you're in with a shout, and to be honest the longer the conversation the better; it once took me half an hour talking to someone to get with them - but it paid off!! If you can talk to girls at ease, charm them and be interesting then they may well go for you! Paying compliments can be difficult, it can either make you look like a complete tool or seal the deal. The secret is to focus on something small and unique - a bracelet, their eyes or even their laugh; if you can say something they don't normally hear it helps you a great deal! But what if you can't talk to girls? Firstly sort yourself out, man-up and do it! If you still can't do it then often a good way is through eye sex, this topic will have it's own post so watch this space!!
Being Different
If you think you don't have this strength, then you've found your strength. You're so pessimistic and down to earth that you're different - hopefully this means that you can take the mick out of yourself. If you can be unique or do something that girls don't expect then you're on to a winner - even playing hard to get can work as girls expect you to them, don't.
Drinking
This is an impossible topic to write about. There's something that can be attractive about every type of drinker, be it the one who doesn't drink, the one who drinks to have a good time, the light-weight who's just a mess or the guy who can down pints like water. If you find out which one of these you are then it'll be an advantage. Not being able to drink heavily may seem like a weakness - try it both ways by being the drunkard and the sober one. The amount of times I've pulled because of my friends being horrifically drunk is countless - a simple apology goes a long way (and it's an excuse to buy them a drink...)
Dancing
I'm a terrible dancer - it's a massive weakness. However this weakness can be turned into a strength; by dancing like a dick you actually can look good, easy-going and up for a good time (not as sexual as it sounds I'm afraid...). I've spoken about mime before and I stand by that as a quality solution, although you get laughed at play the long-game and it works quite nicely! If you can dance well then you're sorted, the only dancing better than this is dancing that's different, if it's cool then girls will watch and talk to you!
The tip that comes out from this really is being unique, find your unique strength (or weakness for that matter) and you'll succeed.
Monday 20 August 2012
"The Kiss Code"
I'm going to take a brief break from the typical "how to pull girls" approach and go for what some might wish to call step 2. So you've been out - got a girls phone number and are gradually texting and getting to know her - something I always used to struggle with was the number of kisses that should be used! There's no doubt that the more you get the better the flirting is going; but how many should you start with and how do you make sure that you are the one controlling it?
Always start with one kiss, it shows you're not that bothered (even if you are) and in a way is a prime example of how to play hard to get. After about 5 or 6 texts back and forth, casually drop in two kisses - if she matches then continue for another 5 or 6 and then put it up to 3, if she matches then continue until you reach 5 kisses. At this point, you have two choices - either drop the kisses and go back to one, or you can put a heart, or what I like to call the "cheeky LY". If she gives you either of these back then it's a cert, and if she fails to match the one kiss then you're in! If she acts confused - you're in. This is the most sure fire way to tell if a girl is into you when texting!!
The problems come when she fails to match and stays on the initial number of kisses, be it one two three or four! The first step is to back-track, wait another 5 or 6 texts and then try again, if you keep failing it goes without saying - stop. If she won't match your kisses after numerous conversations then you're in the friend zone, and he who enters the friend zone rarely gets blown...
You may think this is absolute rubbish but the next chance you get, try it. I guarantee it works!
Always start with one kiss, it shows you're not that bothered (even if you are) and in a way is a prime example of how to play hard to get. After about 5 or 6 texts back and forth, casually drop in two kisses - if she matches then continue for another 5 or 6 and then put it up to 3, if she matches then continue until you reach 5 kisses. At this point, you have two choices - either drop the kisses and go back to one, or you can put a heart, or what I like to call the "cheeky LY". If she gives you either of these back then it's a cert, and if she fails to match the one kiss then you're in! If she acts confused - you're in. This is the most sure fire way to tell if a girl is into you when texting!!
The problems come when she fails to match and stays on the initial number of kisses, be it one two three or four! The first step is to back-track, wait another 5 or 6 texts and then try again, if you keep failing it goes without saying - stop. If she won't match your kisses after numerous conversations then you're in the friend zone, and he who enters the friend zone rarely gets blown...
You may think this is absolute rubbish but the next chance you get, try it. I guarantee it works!
Frame of Mind
If you approach a situation positively then you’re far more
likely to succeed, this isn’t just true regarding getting with girls it’s true
in every aspect of life. If you go out thinking that you won’t pull the
likelihood is that you won’t – go out with the intention of doing so then you’re
about 70% guaranteed to do so. In all honesty the last time I went out
following the words “I won’t pull tonight” I got with 3 people and took someone
home, it doesn’t always work out that way!
There are three key factors with a frame of mind, there’s
one which I’ve spoken a great deal amount about which is confidence. If you’re
assured within yourself that you CAN pull your target then the likelihood is
that you will do so - if she’s Cheryl Cole you may want to think again…
The next factor is the way you move, it’s incredibly easy to
tell when somebody’s nervous on a night out, having seen it from all three
angles of work, pulling and not pulling I can appreciate the different
mind-sets. You can spot the nervous guy in the corner who hasn’t pulled in
about 3 months, you can spot “Jack the Lad” in the corner who thinks he’s
amazing, and you can easily see the middleman who doesn’t care that much; Aim
to be the middle man because essentially you’re likable.
If you know what kind of girl you want to pull you’re in a
much better position, if you want to pull the easy type then that’s quite
alright – go out and be confident and make the approach, more often than not it’ll
be successful. If you’re after a fitty then it will take a lot more effort and
preparation, in fairness it does pay off – having a debrief about getting with
someone you’re pleased to get with is incredibly satisfying. There are the two
main types, if you want to get a girlfriend then don’t pull at all, just go for
the phone number and leave it at that; there’s nothing worse than pulling
someone, meeting up with them and forgetting what they look like as you scout
around where you agreed to meet! The key to pulling fit girls is being
different, they expect guys to come to them so play hard to get.
Preparation is key; it’s like playing the piano if you don’t
learn the notes then you can’t play the tune. If you look around, get the
cheeky eye contact and then go in for the kill you can’t go far wrong, walking
over and grinding always fails. Believe me. Even once you’ve gone over make
some conversation, dance a little and for goodness sake make sure you or
someone else knows their name!!
Persistence and failure go hand in hand. If you fail try and
try again, for every one pull expect to be rejected 5 times as a minimum,
perhaps this is over-zealous but it keeps your expectations low!! Once you’ve
failed you have to keep the confidence up – another reason why pulling as a
team is useful!
Appearance isn’t as important as you might think, girls don’t
pull based on looks (madness), and they pull on personality and mental position.
This is why frame of mind is as important as I’m putting across, when I go out
thinking I look like shit I go home alone, if I think I look good (like Ron
Burgundy) then I usually do alright. Don’t change how you look but dress well,
and dress comfortably – you’re more likely to pull looking comfortable and
yourself than you are looking “attractive”
Sunday 19 August 2012
The Basics
If I've said it once I've said it a thousand times, the key is confidence - making that first step of walking over to a girl is half of the battle won! Below are the 4 key things to remember, I intend to discuss a lot of these in more detail as time progresses but these should get you started.
Confidence
In no way can I teach you to be confident, however I can try and help you deal with what's causing you to be nervous; There are usually four main reasons for this :
1 - She's out of Your League. Firstly there's no such thing as leagues or ratings - you can easily go from an 8 to a 4 in the space of 15 minutes and you may find it took more effort to get with the 4. Girls can't be predicted and the "out of my league" excuse isn't real - better to try and fail than to have never tried at all (and after all if you pull a 9 it's well worth the rejections that may precede her!)
2 - They Might Say No! So what?? Rejection and failure is part of life, the sooner you learn to deal with it the better, cliches are over used but there really are plenty more fish in the sea - nobody has a 100% success rate, I certainly don't
3 - They're in a relationship... If you don't ask you'll never know - and even if they are in a relationship sometimes these things have a way of working out, although I don't advise being a home-wrecker sometimes it just happens...
4 - I'll look like a dick. Once again this is pretty irrelevant, you'll look much more of a dick if you're in the corner scared to go over - if you act reasonably normal girls won't reject you brutally. Go over and try and grope them then it might go slightly awry...
Know Your Enemies and Allies
There are two main groups in this case - divided conveniently by gender, we'll start with our male compatriots. If you're out as a group the role of a wing-man should never be under-rated - I've played the card and it's invaluable, especially if you're trying to get with foreign girls and they speak the language - it never fails. The complete opposite of the wing-man is the "cock-blocker", these people aren't necessarily tools, there's a fairly high percentage they're friends our partners of the girl you're trying to pull - don't get aggressive just out-do them at everything they do, until you get bored at which point give up. Usually I say don't give up but in this game you need to know when to quit!
Moving onto females - believe it or not there are some groups who want their friends to pull - either she's on the rebound or just plain bored. Countless times I've been out with female friends and pulled their friends - it won't harm your friendship with them and more often than not it works out quite nicely. However, for the most part girls don't want their friends to get with you - especially if they're drunk; I've worked in bars for years and the amount of girls who try to stop pulling is unbelievable, and in many ways quite impressive. The best way to deal with annoying friends is a) to use a wing man or b) to be a gentleman; if you come across as a really nice guy then the likelihood is the girls who are trying to stop you may well help you!!
Drink (The Double Edged Sword of Pulling)
Drunk girls are easier girls than those who are sober - for the purpose of this you should both be drunk otherwise society frowns on this somewhat! On the plus side you're far more confident and outgoing, and they're much more willing to talk to you - and much much easier. However you may make a complete tit of yourself - having groped a girls boob (accidentally, probably) and then been slapped drinking can make you into a complete tool. There are further issues with drinking because it's more than likely you get with people you shouldn't - ex-girlfriends or fat girls are prime examples of this issue - there's nothing worse than thinking you've slept with a seven and waking up to find a four!
Where to Pull
The natural hunting ground should be bars, pubs and clubs. Although if Wedding Crashers taught me anything it's go to weddings - personally I've not tried it but watch this space. If you can dance then you're in luck, I can't dance to save my life but I am exceptionally good and making a fool of myself when dancing - in a good way. If you can master this then you're onto a winner - my hint would be mime (work the ride on lawnmower - "Sixty percent of the time, it works every time..."). Within a club the main dance-floor is the most tempting place to go - but this is an amateur error, if you work in the smaller rooms there's a higher female:male ratio - and a lot more room. You also won't end up sweating and looking like a mess - looking good isn't that important, not looking terrible is...
Confidence
In no way can I teach you to be confident, however I can try and help you deal with what's causing you to be nervous; There are usually four main reasons for this :
1 - She's out of Your League. Firstly there's no such thing as leagues or ratings - you can easily go from an 8 to a 4 in the space of 15 minutes and you may find it took more effort to get with the 4. Girls can't be predicted and the "out of my league" excuse isn't real - better to try and fail than to have never tried at all (and after all if you pull a 9 it's well worth the rejections that may precede her!)
2 - They Might Say No! So what?? Rejection and failure is part of life, the sooner you learn to deal with it the better, cliches are over used but there really are plenty more fish in the sea - nobody has a 100% success rate, I certainly don't
3 - They're in a relationship... If you don't ask you'll never know - and even if they are in a relationship sometimes these things have a way of working out, although I don't advise being a home-wrecker sometimes it just happens...
4 - I'll look like a dick. Once again this is pretty irrelevant, you'll look much more of a dick if you're in the corner scared to go over - if you act reasonably normal girls won't reject you brutally. Go over and try and grope them then it might go slightly awry...
Know Your Enemies and Allies
There are two main groups in this case - divided conveniently by gender, we'll start with our male compatriots. If you're out as a group the role of a wing-man should never be under-rated - I've played the card and it's invaluable, especially if you're trying to get with foreign girls and they speak the language - it never fails. The complete opposite of the wing-man is the "cock-blocker", these people aren't necessarily tools, there's a fairly high percentage they're friends our partners of the girl you're trying to pull - don't get aggressive just out-do them at everything they do, until you get bored at which point give up. Usually I say don't give up but in this game you need to know when to quit!
Moving onto females - believe it or not there are some groups who want their friends to pull - either she's on the rebound or just plain bored. Countless times I've been out with female friends and pulled their friends - it won't harm your friendship with them and more often than not it works out quite nicely. However, for the most part girls don't want their friends to get with you - especially if they're drunk; I've worked in bars for years and the amount of girls who try to stop pulling is unbelievable, and in many ways quite impressive. The best way to deal with annoying friends is a) to use a wing man or b) to be a gentleman; if you come across as a really nice guy then the likelihood is the girls who are trying to stop you may well help you!!
Drink (The Double Edged Sword of Pulling)
Drunk girls are easier girls than those who are sober - for the purpose of this you should both be drunk otherwise society frowns on this somewhat! On the plus side you're far more confident and outgoing, and they're much more willing to talk to you - and much much easier. However you may make a complete tit of yourself - having groped a girls boob (accidentally, probably) and then been slapped drinking can make you into a complete tool. There are further issues with drinking because it's more than likely you get with people you shouldn't - ex-girlfriends or fat girls are prime examples of this issue - there's nothing worse than thinking you've slept with a seven and waking up to find a four!
Where to Pull
The natural hunting ground should be bars, pubs and clubs. Although if Wedding Crashers taught me anything it's go to weddings - personally I've not tried it but watch this space. If you can dance then you're in luck, I can't dance to save my life but I am exceptionally good and making a fool of myself when dancing - in a good way. If you can master this then you're onto a winner - my hint would be mime (work the ride on lawnmower - "Sixty percent of the time, it works every time..."). Within a club the main dance-floor is the most tempting place to go - but this is an amateur error, if you work in the smaller rooms there's a higher female:male ratio - and a lot more room. You also won't end up sweating and looking like a mess - looking good isn't that important, not looking terrible is...
An Introduction
If you're reading this blog, you want to pull - you've come to the right place! Before we begin it's important to note that (most likely) none of these techniques will get you a girlfriend, and they may get you slapped. I'm simply putting down what's worked for me, and in time what might work for you/what may not.
I won't say who I am purely to save face but over the years I've done pretty well for myself - I've got the reputation to prove it. In three years of Uni I've got with more people than I can remember and slept with more than enough as well.
In this blog the intention is to firstly outline the main tools at your disposal - which will come later and then put together some ploys/chat-up lines; If you want to add your own feel free!!
Girls are weird - there's no doubt about it, they're impossible to predict in any way at all, one night you can get with them the next you get slapped across the face for what you felt was a completely positive signal - it happens! The only way to tackle this is to know what you're dealing with, have female friends because at the end of the day, if you know them - you know their friends...
If there's one golden rule that I've learnt it's be confident - if you can do that then you're already 50 percent of the way there, the only thing better than confidence is looking like David Beckham - and very few people look like that.
I won't say who I am purely to save face but over the years I've done pretty well for myself - I've got the reputation to prove it. In three years of Uni I've got with more people than I can remember and slept with more than enough as well.
In this blog the intention is to firstly outline the main tools at your disposal - which will come later and then put together some ploys/chat-up lines; If you want to add your own feel free!!
Girls are weird - there's no doubt about it, they're impossible to predict in any way at all, one night you can get with them the next you get slapped across the face for what you felt was a completely positive signal - it happens! The only way to tackle this is to know what you're dealing with, have female friends because at the end of the day, if you know them - you know their friends...
If there's one golden rule that I've learnt it's be confident - if you can do that then you're already 50 percent of the way there, the only thing better than confidence is looking like David Beckham - and very few people look like that.
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